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Got any big ideas, any big goals that you want to achieve?  Use this to get over your worries/fears and start the journey.  

Most people that want to achieve some big goals that they have held for many years have to overcome one of the biggest hurdles that they will come across and they have to get over this hurdle at the very start of their journey.  

Fear

This can come to you disguised in many ways, and whatever way it comes to you it tends to stop you starting at all, or gives you the reason to give up very early in the process.  

What will people think if I fail?

They will all ridicule me, and they will know that I am a failure.

These are usually two of the questions that stop people getting anywhere but please make a note: both of the above questions are not about you at all. 

The above questions are about your ideas of what other people think of you.  You are trying to achieve your goals by using other people's opinions (is that similar to letting all those negative words influence you?).  

Fact

You cannot achieve your goals for anyone else - it's not their goal. It's Your Goal!

Goals are very personal they are yours, no one else's, so it doesn't concern anybody else apart from you.  Goals are selfish.  You have to be selfish to achieve your goal.  There is nothing wrong with this it is purely the mechanics of attaining what you want.  (By selfish I do not mean that you use and abuse people to get what you want, I mean that it doesn't concern them while you're achieving your goal).  

Fact

If you have a goal, something that you have longed for possibly for many years, and yet you still haven't done your utmost to achieve it - then you have failed for all these years, you have failed before you've started.  

If you do not start you have completely failed – up to now that is.  

If you do nothing what will you end up with?     Nothing!  

In many ways to make a definite decision to start is by far the biggest decision that you will have to make. If that decision is honest and sincere then you are unstoppable.  So take the words fear/failure out of your personal dictionary, and put them back into Pandora’s box where they belong. Do this with all the negative words that you are currently using. From now on do not accept these words, or any words that are similar at all.  They do not exist. They have ceased to be. (I think that’s made the point)

Use words like accomplish, learn, achieve. Oh… and Success.  

Now that you have accepted that your goals are just for you, and now that you do not feel anxious about being selfish the last piece of advice is to keep your goals to yourself until you've achieved them.  For reasons that are too long to explain here trust me on this.

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Edison Fullbrook writes e-books and articles on

success & motivation. 

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