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Focus on your achievements
- if you take time to think you will realise that you have achieved so many
things in your life. It doesn't matter what these achievements are only that
they are important to you. List them and remember what they meant to you. It
doesn't matter what you think about your life at present if you are honest
with yourself you will make a long list and that will make you feel good.
Every small thing you are proud of should be added to your list. The fact that you are
focusing on positives will also help you to increase your level of self esteem.
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Make plans for the future
- following from above the next thing to do is stop wasting time and
procrastinating get planning! What would you like to do but felt you
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couldn't? Time to
decide for yourself that you will do it now! Make a list of things you want to
do or want to change and start thinking about how to make a start.
Then take a breath and just begin. you won't look back!
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What you like about
yourself - if you have low self esteem you probably keep reflecting on the
things you don't like about yourself but if you reverse this thinking it is
much more helpful. What do your friends like about you? Have you ever asked
yourself that or even better, have you ever asked them? After you have listed all the things you like about yourself
then the negative things seem smaller and less harmful.
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What can you change that
will make you feel better about yourself? There are two kinds of changes you
may wish to focus on. The first are changes in your life and how you live
it. Ask yourself are you happy in your job? Is it satisfying? Is there
something else you'd rather do? What about your relationships or your social
life? If you would like to be more assertive for example then start working
on that immediately. Click on this link to get
Assertiveness Training
- a really helpful self hypnosis download that will help you enormously.
Whatever it is that you feel you need to change then go ahead and do it.
this will make you feel more in control of your life and your self esteem
will begin to pick up.
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Accept yourself and who
you are - there are many things about your personality and character and
your life that you may not be able to change and that shouldn't hold you
back. Learn to accept those things and understand why you can still be happy
and
feel good about yourself despite these things. Try saying - well at
least I am reasonably well off or at least whatever you can think of that is
positive. At least turns a
negative into a positive.
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Disabilities are big
hang-ups for many but a disability doesn't have to be an obstacle to your
self esteem. If you
have a disability no matter what it is then understand that there are many
people with disabilities
both physical and mental who have refused to let themselves feel low because
of it. The attitude you have is the most important thing. Your self esteem
depends not on your disability but on your reaction to it, how you think
about it. The idea is to change your attitude and thinking not the
disability which may be permanent. Your self esteem is not set in
stone it can be improved as you work on yourself. I think you can indeed
escape. You have decided what you can or cannot do, change that and you can
escape the prison which is your attitude.
I once heard an interview with the guy who used to be superman, Christopher
Reeve. He fell from a horse and was paralyzed but his
attitude and achievements shine out. I'm sure there are many examples if you
look for them
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