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Part of the First
Chapter of my
e-book:
Chapter One
What is Self Esteem
Exactly?
Self-esteem covers
many aspects but
basically it is your
sense of self
worth. How valuable
you think you are as
a person. If you
want to discover
what your level of
self-esteem is there
are many tests you
can take and I have
one on my website at
that this page:
http://www.more-selfesteem.com/test.htm
However, you can ask
yourself a simple
question and the
answer to this will
tell you what your
present level of
self-esteem is…
“How much do I value
myself?”
If you think about
this question
carefully, your
answers will tell
you a lot. You
should spend a bit
of time thinking
about this and
taking a few notes
would be very
helpful before you
start to read this
e-book.
You can’t touch it,
but it affects how
you feel…
You can’t see it,
but it’s there when
you look at yourself
in the mirror…
You can’t hear it,
but it’s there as a
voice inside you…
This is your self
esteem!
The opinion and
values you hold are
influenced by
physical appearance,
performance of
various tasks,
parents, religion,
leaders, peers and
siblings.
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ESTEEM means
• Value
• worth
• confidence
• respect
• honour
• hold one in high
regard
So self-esteem is
your awareness of
all these about
yourself. Let’s
take a few minutes
to look at all these
important points
above one by one.
Value
Everybody has an
internal picture of
their own value
within society. To
have a healthy level
of self-esteem you
need to have a good
self opinion of
yourself in terms of
the value that you
have in your
family. This is so
important. Much of
your self esteem was
formed in the first
place in the family
when you were a
child and as you
grew up your level
of self-esteem
depended on the role
that you held in
your family.
Whether you are a
father, mother son
or daughter you need
to know that you are
performing your role
well and to the best
of your ability and
that you are
appreciated for it.
Your relationships
within the family
are very important
in forming your own
opinions about your
value to the other
members of the
family. The respect
that you receive
from your partner or
your children also
comes into this.
Men and women have a
lot of different
stresses and
expectations within
the family and so a
man, for example,
who has lost his job
and is unable to
provide for his
family can suffer a
drastic fall in his
self esteem because
he believes that he
is not performing
his duty
appropriately.
Women, on the other
hand, have different
roles to play but
nonetheless if they
are taken advantage
of, (as is often the
case with women),
low self esteem
results. Women
usually have the
role of running the
family in the sense
of looking after the
children and
preparing meals etc.
(this is a very
stereotyped view of
course but it is
still nonetheless
the norm).
Women sometimes have
so many demands
placed on them,
(especially nowadays
when women are also
working and
developing
careers). This
often means that
they have to make
choices and the
problem with choices
is that if you are
forced to make them
against your desires
you can suffer low
self esteem.
The problem in
families is that
there are so many
conflicting roles
and responsibilities
that not everybody
can always take care
of their own needs.
This often leads to
situations where
people feel
neglected or they
feel that their
needs are not being
respected. This is
especially the case
with adolescents and
young children who
have little
tolerance for
parent’s other
responsibilities and
duties.
As children we need
to feel that we are
valued. Whether we
feel valued or not
as children, depends
on the messages that
we get from our
parents. Children
feel valued when her
parents give them
positive messages
and they feel bad
when they receive
negative messages.
Parents these days
have many
responsibilities and
with the fast pace
of life in the
modern world parents
often do not give
enough time to their
children and worse,
when they return
home from work tired
and stressed it is
very easy for them
to get angry and
give their children
negative messages.
If this is repeated
often the child
grows up to be a
child who suffers
from low self-esteem
and this can
continue into
adulthood.
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If you suffered from
negative messages as
you grew up as a
child and let’s face
it we all have to a
certain extent, then
you may still be
suffering today and
this may be why you
do not value
yourself as much as
you should.
If you are a parent
you should be aware
of the affect that
your negative
messages have on
your children. How
often have you heard
yourself saying
things like:
“You never listen”
“You’re so lazy”
“You never clean up
your room”
And many other
negative messages
which repeated over
a long period time
really affect your
child. Think back
to when you were a
child and the
messages you
received and you may
understand that
perhaps you are
still suffering from
the after effects of
all those messages.
Worth
Your self-worth is
also important.
When you think of
the job that you
have and the things
you do every day, do
you believe that
they are valuable to
the world in
general?
The thing about self
worth is that the
most important thing
is what you think.
Your lack of self
esteem is directly
related to your own
opinion of the value
of what you do and
who you are and this
is totally within
your control to
change. Of course
it is difficult if
you are in a
position where you
always receive
negative messages
from your partner,
from members of your
family or from
colleagues at work.
What we’ll do in
this book is try to
alter the way you
think about yourself
and make you aware
of how your thinking
affects your ability
to achieve your
potential and reach
your dreams. If you
are serious about
reaching the goals
that you have set
for yourself and you
want a life filled
with happiness then
you must start with
improving your self
esteem and building
your confidence.
Confidence
Self-Confidence is
such an important
aspect of self
esteem because
without
Self-Confidence your
self esteem will be
extremely low.
Without self belief
you’ll be defeated
before you even get
started. Chances are
that you may not
even start difficult
things because you
will talk yourself
out of it. As soon
as anybody else
turns round to you
and gives you a
negative message you
will tend to believe
them. In addition,
low self confidence
will mean that you
are easily put off
by others comments
and you will give
up.
The reason why
self-confidence and
self-esteem are
connected is because
if you have no
self-belief and you
doubt yourself and
your capabilities
you will not
challenge yourself
and you will stick
with things which
are safe. You will
be holding yourself
back and a voice
inside you will nag
you because you will
know the truth. The
worst thing in life
is to know that you
are holding yourself
back because you are
paralyzed with fear
of failure. Lack of
self confidence
fills you with a
fear of failure.
Fear of failure
often means that you
will fail because
you will expect
nothing else and we
all know that
through the law of
attraction what you
expect is what you
get.
High self-esteem
enhances self
confidence that
enables a person to
interact,
participate and
relate positively
with others.
To find out how you
can boost your self
confidence visit:
http://www.more-selfesteem.com/self_confidence_tips.htm
Respect
Respect is another
factor which is
highly important.
Self esteem not only
depends on your own
self respect but
also depends on what
you think others
think of you. If a
woman thinks that
her family does not
respect her or that
they do not listen
to her then she will
suffer from low self
esteem.
It is the same for
you. You need to
feel that you are
respected by others
and if you don’t you
will find it
difficult to respect
yourself.
Honor
Self-esteem also
depends on honor.
What do I mean by
this? I mean that
if you believe that
what you are doing
is honorable you
will have a high
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